before marriage!!~~?

I might sound a bit harsh in this but im sorry ahead of time, sugar coating is not my thing, I just say how I feel so here we go! I am a firm believer in before marriage! Why? Because I honestly think its smart to test it out before you sign the contract. Sometimes people connect mentally but not physically. Maybe he s to early, or he is waaaay to small I could barely feel a thing...or hes just dull and boring in bed, wont choke me, me and pull my hair, there could be many things. I know people say isn't everything but cut the *bs* its an important factor! I really fell hard for this guy who will remain anonymous, we waited to have until we were committed as far as bf/gf...which was cool cuz I will still do that now... but finally after all the months of anticipation we had ...It was soooo stupid and pointless and unsatisfying it was funny...I couldn't help but giggle. Yea I loved him but he didn't satisfy me ually and I would have ended up cheating FOR SURE! So I ended things. And I don't feel bad. We remain friends. People might say teach him, tell him, show him! Well I did tell him, but also told him not to change his style cuz someone else might love it! But no I wont teach him...sorry but that's not my job! But how do you feel about before marriage??